Monthly Archives: February 2013

A Few Kind Words

Com-pli-ment [kom-pluh-ment]

Noun– an expression of praise, commendation, or admiration: A sincere compliment boosts one’s morale.

Verb (used with an object)- to pay a compliment to: She complimented a colleague on his recent presentation.

When was the last time you were complimented? If it was authentic (not given by a teenager followed by a request for cash) I suspect you felt encouraged. And how about the last time you complimented someone else? That feels pretty good, too. It seems to me that most of the time, however, we are noticing what could be better, and making comments about work that is lacking.

It’s not just you and I that need to consider when, where and how to give out compliments–everyone is reminded on World Compliment Day, which is March 1st.

Go to the World Compliment Day website where you can email or print an official award certificate to the person you want to compliment, or download a free poster. “A sincere and personal compliment costs nothing, but the impact on the recipient is huge,” says Hans Poortvliet, the driving force behind the annual event. “Nothing stimulates more, gives more energy, makes people happier and, as far as business is concerned, increases productivity and commitment faster than sincere appreciation. So, why not use it a little bit more?”

Why not use it a bit more?  Why not start this Friday? Pay attention to the people around you and speak up when you notice an attitude or action that you admire or appreciate. Be specific. Be genuine.  Watch this one minute video if you need ideas:

How to Pay a Compliment

Everyone could use a few kind words, why not let them come from you?

Meeting Anna Maria Chávez at Girl Scout HQ

Troop 40072 has a two-week window to sell cookies. I thought we’d have more time! But, as Girl Scouts, we were prepared to start selling, having role-played our sales pitch in our last session. My two girls came to visit me at work and sold slightly over 70 boxes to GSUSA staff!

Ten of those boxes went to Anna Maria Chávez, who made the visit by meeting with us. She took the time to make both girls feel welcome and important as she does with most Girl Scouts who visit the national office.

I can’t think of any better leadership experience than meeting such a dynamic, successful, and warm-hearted leader of the Girl Scout Movement. Very special, indeed!

We also visited the Girl Scout store to pick up some cookie selling badges for our troop and went to the Girl Scout Museum. All in all, it was an awesome girl-led visit. If there’s some way you can manage to get to yourself and your Girl Scouts to New York City, I think it’s well worth a visit. Staff LOVES to see the girls and meeting Anna Maria Chávez is a wonderful experience.


My favorite Sesame Street character has always been Cookie Monster. Well, I did like Grover, especially when he was Super Grover, but I don’t think he is around anymore. Cookie Monster might have retired, for all I know, since my two children are grown and off to college.

My son, who is six feet tall and looks like a linebacker, loves to cook. It’s a good thing, since the boy loves to eat. For his 20th birthday he asked for a gas grill, and this year he texted me that he needed a new skillet and a kettle. How cute! But, then he sent another text that said, “And I lost my ipod, so I could use a Nano, and some new ($100 Nike) basketball shoes.” Then a few minutes later the final text, which simply said “wine glasses.” He is turning 21, after all.

I love to cook with my son; through all the years it was the only time I was sure he was actually listening to me. Are you with me, mothers? One year he started a subscription to the Food Network Magazine and last year for Christmas he bought me a subscription too…wait, I think I ended up paying for that. At any rate, once a month we talk on the phone about the latest issue. I don’t know how much either one of us try the new recipes, but we both love the conversation.

In the January/February issue of the Food Network Magazine there is a great photo of stacks of Thin Mints, Trefoils and Samoas/Caramel deLites (page 147- did you see it?). There is a cookie patch and directions to download the Cookie Finder app if you don’t have girls standing in front of your local grocery store. I love seeing Girl Scouts in the media, even if it’s just cookies (since we all know Girl Scouts is about SO much more than cookies). Where have you seen a cookie advertisement that made you smile? What was the best angle you’ve seen over the years? If you were in charge of the world, how would you let everyone know that this is the time to stock up?

Junior Journeys, Daisy Petals, and Troop Management

Junior Journeys After a short introduction to each journey, the girl-led process took over and my Juniors started a spirited conversation of their own. After some looking through the Journey books, sharing pictures and impressions, they agreed unanimously: They chose the aMuse Journey. We spent the rest of the activity part of the session acting out different roles.

Daisy Petals

The session went very well with the Juniors. I also had my Daisies at the same time. They are working on their petals and were less enthused about the petal story. I think they are becoming bored with the format of the petal stories. However, I don’t want to vary their activities too much because I’ve noticed transitioning from one thing to the next is more challenging for the Daisies.

Despite the fact I’ve divided our troop into two smaller groups and I have three Daisies and three Juniors, giving each girl enough attention is still challenging. While I work with one age group, often the other group gets off topic. Help!: Have you found it hard to balance troop management with keeping the girls engaged in fun activities? How have you managed?

Who Do You Need to Talk To?

Anyone who works with people knows there are important conversations to be had on a regular basis to maintain a healthy organization. Employees, colleagues, stakeholders, people of influence within or outside the organization–any kind of relationship eventually encounters a significant, but potentially difficult, conversation. No wonder the popularity of books like Crucial Conversations, Difficult Conversations, and Fierce Conversations. Those are just the short titles.

Even though we all know these conversations are necessary, it is so easy to procrastinate. And there are good justifications for postponing…too little time, too much to do, anxiety about the outcome and/or fear that the conversation won’t easily wrap up. In fact, we can reinforce our protective excuses until they become a wall that simply keeps the important conversation from ever happening.

Now is as good a time as any to take steps toward a difficult conversation. Three steps, to be exact:

1. Make a list of the important conversations that you need to have and set a firm deadline for having them. You don’t have to be the COO to feel a responsibility to keep communication flowing in the office. I suspect you can name three people as a place to start. Write it in your planner.

2. Plan your part of the conversation. Rather than hoping you will know what to say and how to say it in the moment, it’s a helpful practice to prepare. Write out key phrases and questions on index cards and take them along.

3. Keep the goal in mind. The purpose of a significant conversation isn’t to persuade another to agree with you, or to push your opinion throughout the project team or office. The goal is to communicate as simply as possible what needs to be said and done for the sake of a healthy organization. It isn’t personal, although good conversations contribute to strong working relationships.

So, who do you need to talk to?

Life in the Fast Lane

Here I am at the airport, again. It’s gray, dreary and cold outside, but I’m sitting by the window looking at planes and solving the world’s problems. This little turbo prop caught my eye. A “turbo prop” is an airplane powered by propellers rather than jet engines; you don’t see many of these anymore. This was an Air Canada Express with a huge, gorgeous maple leaf on the tail.

That reminds me of a trip to Montreal years ago, when I bought these delicious maple sugar cookies in the shape of maple leaves to bring home to my family and friends. I was so pleased with my souvenir purchase until I noticed that same cookie in our local Harris Teeter grocery store. And it was less expensive.

Anyway, I watched that little turbo prop warm up; first one engine and then the other turning those propeller blades. Soon they were spinning so fast that I couldn’t see the individual blades anymore. I leaned forward and tried to find the propeller blades but all I could see was a soft, grayish blur–like an optical illusion. I knew those blades were there working hard but I couldn’t see them.

I’m thinking of a friend of mine who moves through life so fast that I can hardly see her. She is uber-productive but our interaction feels like a momentary blur before she is airborne again. The truth is, I have days like that, when there is hardly breathing room from sun up to sun down.  Sometimes we use the expression “they just don’t see me,” meaning they don’t know me or understand me. Wonder if that’s because we are only a blur to them?

I also wonder if I sometimes become a blur to myself. I’m not taking time to think about what is important, because I know I’m over the edge and it seems so difficult to get back to reasonable living. It’s the same way in which we ignore a needy email or unpleasant task.

Talk to me about slowing down. How do you balance productivity and peace?



Journeys with Troop 40072

Troop 40072 starts meeting again this Wednesday. Since I haven’t found a co-leader for the troop, I’m splitting the group into two sections: Daisies & Juniors (I have six in all) and Brownies (the rest of the troop). I think this will make meetings easier to manage and I will be able to focus more on the Girl Scout Leadership Experience. Thanks to blog readers who suggested I do it this way!

In the fall, we learned about Girl Scouts in general: the session structure, the handshake, the promise and law, a few songs, the friendship circle, the snacks, and of course, the badges! And by “we learned” I mostly mean, “I learned” since my knowledge of the Girl Scouts in practice was very limited, even though I work at the national office. The girls knew a lot about Girl Scouts even though some of them had not been Girl Scouts.

All this to say, I think the girls and I are ready to start the journeys. In the next two weeks, I’ll start Journeys with each level in my troop. I’m really excited!

What I’d like to know: What has your experience been with the Journeys? Was it hard to get the girls to decide on one? Any tips or tricks to use when working with them? Please share!